'TikTok, find me a husband': Woman, 32, turns to platform after spending $1,000 on dating apps

A woman who says she has spent more than $1,000 on dating app subscriptions has turned to TikTok to find a potential husband.

Dionis Liaw, 32, posted a video on her TikTok account dionislovespink, saying she had exhausted her options on dating apps after actively dating since March.

"I have officially run out of men in Singapore on dating apps," she said in the video.

She added: "I'm outsourcing my husband's search to TikTok now. TikTok, you find me one then."

The video, posted on Mon (Sept 14), has since garnered more than 135,300 views as of Thursday.

In her video, Liaw said she had spent over $1,000 on premium subscriptions to dating apps including Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Bumble, Facebook Dating and Matchcatch.

She has since created a matchmaking form for interested men to fill in. It asks questions about their backgrounds and relationship goals.

Frustrated with dating apps

Liaw told Mothership that while the idea to post the video was spontaneous, her frustration with dating apps had been building for months.

She explained that the challenge was not a lack of people on the platforms, but finding someone whose lifestyle and long-term goals aligned with hers.

"You can match because you find each other attractive and have chemistry, then only later discover that one person doesn't want children, doesn't want marriage, has a completely different communication style or sees relationships very differently," she said.

Liaw added that she prefers to establish compatibility early rather than spend months dating someone before discovering that they want different futures.

She described the matchmaking form as a way to identify potential dates, rather than a means of choosing a husband.

"No, I'm not choosing a husband on this Jotform, I'm just literally deciding who might be worth one date," she said.

Liaw described herself as separated, with no children, and said she is dating with the intention of getting married.

She hopes to have two children and is looking for a partner who shares her desire for marriage and having children.

Among the qualities she is seeking are "financial stability, ambition, a provider mindset" and being a non-smoker.

She also hopes to find someone who likes cats and who "preferably knows how to communicate like a functioning adult".

The form includes about 20 questions covering topics such as marriage, children and communication styles.

Applicants are also asked whether they are comfortable dating someone who is separated but whose divorce is not yet final.

The form states that submissions are private and that filling it in does not guarantee a response or a date.

Nearly 80 submissions so far

Liaw told Mothership that she had received about 79 submissions through the form as of Thursday.

She said some submissions appeared to be serious, while others seemed to have been made as a joke.

"Some of the answers have made me laugh and some people have taken the application much more seriously than I expected," she said.

Despite the mixed responses, Liaw has already spoken to several respondents and has a first date lined up.

In her TikTok video, she appealed to viewers to share the post with eligible single friends.

"I literally only need ONE," she wrote in the caption.

AsiaOne has reached out to Liaw for comment.

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一位自称在约会软件订阅上花费超过 1000 美元的女子，转而通过 TikTok 寻找未来的丈夫。

32 岁的 Dionis Liaw 在她的 TikTok 账号 dionislovespink 上发布了一段视频，称自 3 月份以来她一直在积极约会，但约会软件上的所有选择都已用尽。

“我在新加坡的约会软件上已经找不到合适的男人了，”她在视频中说道。

她补充道：“我现在把找对象的工作外包给TikTok了。TikTok，你来帮我找一个吧。”

该视频于周一（9 月 14 日）发布，截至周四已获得超过 135,300 次观看。

廖女士在视频中表示，她已在包括 Coffee Meets Bagel、Hinge、Bumble、Facebook Dating 和 Matchcatch 在内的约会应用程序的付费订阅上花费了超过 1000 美元。

此后，她制作了一份配对表格，供感兴趣的男士填写。表格会询问他们的背景和恋爱目标。

对约会软件感到失望

Liaw 告诉 Mothership，虽然发布这段视频的想法是临时起意的，但她对约会软件的不满已经持续了好几个月。

她解释说，挑战不在于平台上缺少人，而在于找到生活方式和长期目标与她相符的人。

“你们可能因为彼此吸引、有化学反应而配对成功，但之后却发现其中一方不想要孩子，不想要婚姻，沟通方式完全不同，或者对感情的看法截然不同，”她说。

廖女士补充说，她更喜欢尽早确定彼此是否合拍，而不是花几个月的时间约会，最后才发现对方想要的是不同的未来。

她将配对表格描述为寻找潜在约会对象的方式，而不是选择丈夫的手段。

“不，我不是在Jotform上挑选丈夫​​，我只是在决定谁值得约会一次，”她说。

廖女士自称已分居，没有孩子，并表示她正在恋爱，目标是结婚。

她希望生两个孩子，正在寻找一位和她一样渴望结婚生子的伴侣。

她所追求的品质包括“经济稳定、有抱负、有养家糊口的心态”以及不吸烟。

她还希望找到一个喜欢猫的人，并且“最好是能够像一个正常成年人一样沟通”。

表格包含约 20 个问题，涵盖婚姻、子女和沟通方式等主题。

申请人还会被问及是否能接受与分居但离婚尚未最终生效的人约会。

表格上注明，提交的内容是私密的，填写表格并不保证会得到回复或确定回复日期。

目前已收到近80份投稿

Liaw 告诉 Mothership，截至周四，她已通过该表格收到约 79 份提交内容。

她说，有些投稿看起来很严肃，而另一些投稿似乎只是开玩笑。

“有些回答让我发笑，有些人对申请的认真程度远超我的预期，”她说。

尽管反响不一，廖先生已经与几位受访者交谈过，并安排了第一次约会。

她在TikTok视频中呼吁观众将帖子分享给符合条件的单身朋友。

“我真的只需要一个，”她在配文中写道。

AsiaOne已联系Liaw征求意见。

asyiqin.nadzri@asiaone.com