Happy being a 'maid': Wife who works full-time also does 100% of housework, while husband pays the bills

A full-time working woman who does all the housework while her husband fully covers their expenses said she is "happy being a 'maid'".

In a Oct 9 TikTok post, user teresa3152 shared that she does "100 per cent" of the household chores while working full-time, while her husband "barely lifts a finger at home."

Following the backlash and debate sparked by her post, she shared a follow-up carousel post to clarify that she is "totally content" with their arrangement.

Juggles house chores with working full-time

In response to a content creator who said she disliked doing chores for her husband, teresa3152, who goes by Teresa, said in a carousel post that she does all the house chores despite working full-time.

Her chores include cooking, washing dishes, doing the laundry and scrubbing the toilet.

"He barely lifts a finger at home," she said, adding that her husband has never picked up a broom or helped her wash the dishes.

"When he's too lazy to get water, I'd happily get it for him," she said.

However, Teresa pointed out that her husband covers all their expenses, including utilities, groceries, travel and "every bill you can think of".

She added that he had even asked her to add his card to her Apple wallet.

Whenever he bought her something expensive, Teresa said he refused to let her pay him back.

"He doesn't expect me to work, and is fine with me quitting my job if I want to," she said.

Despite their arrangement, she said she does not splurge, adding that she still thinks $10 meals are expensive and buys second-hand items to save money.

In her post, she emphasised that her husband treats her with respect.

"When I'm tired, the house gets a little messy and it's okay. He makes sure I feel appreciated," she said.

Teresa concluded the post by saying, "Do whatever works for you and your partner".

"I do 100/0, but if 80/20 floats your boat, that's fine too," she wrote.

Netizens question couple's arrangement

The post garnered more than 57,000 views and 90 comments, sparking debate and mixed reactions to the couple's arrangement.

Many commenters took issue with Teresa doing all the housework on top of working full-time.

"All the housework plus a job sounds like hell. It's like paying a maid," one said.

Another commenter questioned why the couple's division of household chores was not at least "90-10".

Others raised questions about how the arrangement would work if she fell ill or if they had children. One user said she was in Teresa's position before having children, but the household chores are now split between her and her husband.

Meanwhile, other commenters expressed their support, saying that as long as the couple has an agreement, other people's opinions do not matter.

"It's okay for you because you are both willing parties," a user wrote.

Another pointed out that at least Teresa's husband covers all their expenses.

"As long as nobody resents each other, that's all that matters," a commenter said.

'Totally content' with current lifestyle

Clarifying her situation in a follow-up post, Teresa stressed that everyone "leads a different life."

On some months, she said her husband earns five times more than she does.

"That comes with a lot of work, stress and time," she said, adding that she occasionally helps him with his business on top of her full-time job and housework.

Teresa explained that her husband's days were typically busier than hers, as he had to satisfy customers, liaise with suppliers and manage multiple workers, among other responsibilities.

She states that he is also responsible for resolving any problems that arise.

"His brain is running 24/7. After all, it's his company," she wrote.

She added that her husband was also a full-time university student.

Pointing to her social media page, she said her content revolves around cooking, cleaning, travelling and married life. She added that she "genuinely enjoys" her lifestyle and is happy to share about it.

"If I'm suffering, why would I film myself doing it..." she wrote.

Teresa also acknowledged that some people may not like doing what she does, which she said is "totally fine".

"As I said, do whatever suits your situation," she said.

Teresa said splitting household chores equally would be fair if both partners earned the same amount and worked the same number of hours.

However, she added that it also depended on each person's love language.

Her husband, she said, enjoys providing for the family, while she found fulfilment in taking care of him and the household.

"But if you are a career woman or house husband, that's totally fine too," Teresa said. "We can all love our family in different ways."

The post drew more than 34,000 views and 50 comments, with many encouraging Teresa and saying she did not need to justify her choices to those with differing opinions.

Several users pointed out that marriage is "teamwork" and a partnership.

"Everyone's marriage looks different. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise," a user wrote.

Stomp has reached out to Teresa for comment.

'Don't make your husband coffee, do laundry, housework': Content creator

The video Teresa initially responded to was posted by local content creator lielnicole on Oct 6.

In it, she said women should not have to do "weird things" for their husbands during the first year of marriage.

These included making coffee, doing the laundry and taking care of household chores for their husbands, she said.

Lielnicole, who goes by Nicole, explained that she had seen many friends start doing such things for their husbands, only for their efforts to be taken for granted as their husbands came to see them as the "wife's duty".

"Don't go and learn the things you don't want to do," she said. "You don't want to learn how to do laundry, don't learn. Don't learn how to use the washing machine."

She also argued that since Singaporean men undergo national service, doing housework should not be a hardship for them.

The video amassed more than 196,000 views and 220 comments, sparking widespread debate over how couples should divide household chores.

一位全职工作的女性包揽所有家务，而她的丈夫则承担了全部开销。她说她“很乐意做一名‘女佣’”。

10 月 9 日，TikTok 用户 teresa3152 在帖子中分享说，她在全职工作的同时承担了“100%”的家务，而她的丈夫“在家几乎什么都不做”。

在她的帖子引发强烈反弹和争论之后，她又发布了一张轮播图，澄清她对目前的安排“完全满意”。

一边全职工作一边做家务

针对一位内容创作者表示不喜欢为丈夫做家务，网名为 Teresa3152（又名 Teresa）的博主在一篇轮播帖子中回应说，尽管自己全职工作，但她仍然承担了所有的家务。

她的家务包括做饭、洗碗、洗衣服和刷马桶。

“他在家几乎什么都不做，”她说，并补充说，她的丈夫从来没有拿起过扫帚，也没有帮她洗过碗。

“如果他懒得去喝水，我很乐意帮他去喝，”她说。

然而，特蕾莎指出，她的丈夫承担了他们所有的开支，包括水电费、食品杂货、旅行以及“你能想到的所有账单”。

她还补充说，他甚至要求她把他的银行卡添加到她的苹果钱包里。

特蕾莎说，每当他给她买贵重物品时，他都拒绝让她还钱。

“他不指望我工作，如果我想辞职，他也不会反对，”她说。

尽管他们之间有这样的约定，但她表示自己不会挥霍，并补充说她仍然认为 10 美元一顿饭很贵，所以会购买二手物品来省钱。

她在帖子中强调，她的丈夫对她很尊重。

“我累的时候，家里会有点乱，但这没关系。他会让我感到被重视，”她说。

特蕾莎在帖子的结尾写道：“做任何对你和你的伴侣都有效的事情。”

“我采用 100/0 的比例，但如果 80/20 的比例更适合你，那也很好，”她写道。

网友质疑这对夫妇的安排

该帖子获得了超过 57,000 次浏览和 90 条评论，引发了关于这对夫妇安排的辩论和褒贬不一的反应。

许多评论者对特蕾莎除了全职工作外还要承担所有家务的做法表示不满。

“家务活加上工作，听起来简直是地狱。这就像雇了个保姆一样，”其中一人说道。

另一位评论者质疑为什么这对夫妇的家务分工不是至少“90-10”。

其他人则质疑，如果她生病了或者他们有了孩子，这种安排该如何运作。一位用户表示，她在生孩子之前也和特蕾莎的情况类似，但现在家务活是由她和丈夫分担的。

与此同时，其他评论者也表达了支持，称只要这对夫妇达成一致，其他人的意见就无关紧要。

一位用户写道：“这对你们来说没问题，因为你们都是自愿的。”

另一位网友指出，至少特蕾莎的丈夫承担了他们所有的开销。

一位评论者说：“只要大家彼此不怨恨，那就足够了。”

对目前的生活方式“完全满意”

特蕾莎在后续帖子中澄清了自己的情况，并强调每个人“都过着不同的生活”。

她说，有些月份她丈夫的收入是她的五倍。

“这需要投入大量的工作、压力和时间，”她说道，并补充说，除了全职工作和家务之外，她偶尔还会帮他处理一些生意上的事情。

特蕾莎解释说，她丈夫的日子通常比她更忙，因为他除了其他职责外，还要满足客户需求、与供应商联络和管理多名员工。

她表示，他也负责解决出现的任何问题。

“他的大脑24小时不停运转。毕竟，这是他自己的公司，”她写道。

她还补充说，她的丈夫也是一名全日制大学生。

她指着自己的社交媒体页面说，她的内容主要围绕烹饪、清洁、旅行和婚姻生活。她补充说，她“真心享受”自己的生活方式，也乐于与人分享。

“如果我真的在受苦，我为什么要拍下自己受苦的过程……”她写道。

特蕾莎也承认有些人可能不喜欢她所做的事情，她说这“完全没问题”。

“正如我所说，做任何适合你自身情况的事情，”她说。

特蕾莎说，如果夫妻双方收入相同、工作时间相同，那么平均分配家务活是公平的。

不过，她补充说，这也取决于每个人的爱的语言。

她说，她的丈夫喜欢养家糊口，而她则从照顾丈夫和料理家务中获得了满足感。

“但如果你是职业女性或家庭主夫，那也完全没问题，”特蕾莎说。“我们都可以用不同的方式爱我们的家人。”

该帖子获得了超过 34,000 次浏览和 50 条评论，许多人鼓励特蕾莎，并表示她不​​需要向持不同意见的人证明自己的选择是正确的。

一些用户指出，婚姻是“团队合作”和伙伴关系。

一位用户写道：“每个人的婚姻都不一样。不要让任何人告诉你其他说法。”

Stomp已联系Teresa征求意见。

“别给你老公煮咖啡、洗衣服、做家务”：内容创作者

Teresa 最初回应的视频是由当地内容创作者 lielnicole 于 10 月 6 日发布的。

她在文中表示，女性在结婚的第一年不应该被迫为丈夫做“奇怪的事情”。

她说，这些家务包括为丈夫煮咖啡、洗衣服和做家务。

莉尔妮可（昵称妮可）解释说，她看到很多朋友开始为丈夫做这些事，但她们的努力却被视为理所当然，因为丈夫们认为这是“妻子的职责”。

“不要去学你不想做的事情，”她说。“你不想学怎么洗衣服，就不要学。不要学怎么用洗衣机。”

她还认为，由于新加坡男性要服兵役，做家务对他们来说不应该是一种负担。

该视频获得了超过 196,000 次观看和 220 条评论，引发了关于夫妻应该如何分担家务的广泛讨论。